Friday, February 1, 2013

Mini-Mac's Weight - An Update

It's been not quite two years since our PCP had "the talk" with Mini-Mac about her weight. What happened?

She's got taller. She didn't go on a diet. She didn't gain more weight and even lost about 20 pounds. She's back to being fairly tiny but now with adult curves.

Basically, what I've seen happen with other girls, happened with her. We didn't harp on her weight. She didn't go on a diet. Her weight just took care of itself once she got through puberty and started her menses.

I just got into it on Facebook with someone about "childhood obesity" and how I think we're too quick to point a finger at the parents and assume they are doing something wrong when we don't even know why some kids get obese and some do not so how can we say the parents of obese kids are doing the wrong things? She disagreed and played the "accountability" card.

Therefore, according to her view of the world, I'm a wonderful parent who has done everything right since neither of my kids have a weight problem.

Except honestly I don't feel like I can claim credit for it. I do feel justified in not pushing Mini-Mac to diet. But I talked to Mini-Mac about it just last week and our conversation went like this:

Me: When Dr. Boyer talked to you about your weight, how did you feel?
Her: Scared
Me: Did your talk cause you to change your eating in any way?
Her: No

Honestly, that's what I expected to hear.

The reality is that Mini-Mac has always had a strong sense of when she was full and done and you could not get her to eat one bite more if her brain told her she was done. Or stop eating if her brain told her she was hungry.

No matter what.

While going through puberty, her brain told her to pack on some pounds, but now that she's done it doesn't want that extra weight and it's gone.

Her body works when mine didn't. I think I broke mine by dieting before I was done growing, but I don't know that for sure. I think it was the right thing to do to keep her from dieting, but I don't know that for sure either. I also think it was the right thing to do to let her regulate her own food even from a young age, but again I don't know for sure if that made any difference.

So if people want to think my kids don't have a weight problem because I did everything right, they are free to do so. But I know all the things I did (and still do) wrong so I will continue to think we, as a family, dodged a bullet and that we, as a society, need a lot more research into childhood obesity if we're going to lick this problem as a nation.
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