What the heck am I talking about?
Apparently, there's a story going around the tabloids that, at the Grammies, Jennifer Hudson told Adele she needed to lose some weight and offered to hook her up with Weight Watchers. And Adele was indignant and repeated something I see a lot in articles about her: that's she's happy with her weight of 165 pounds.
Naturally, the internet is a buzz and a lot of people are upset about this and saying mean things about Jennifer for daring to tell the wonderful Adele that, basically, she's fat. But, honestly, anyone who's lost significant amount of weight has been where Hudson is is and knows how hard it can be not to proselytize. You think you've found the Holy Grail and you want everyone to know about it.
But most of us are smart enough to refrain. We know that before we were receptive to the message, we would not have responded well to someone else trying to force the issue. Especially if their message is something like "try Weight Watchers" that doesn't have that great a track record and many of us have tried at least once if not many times before.
So, assuming this story is even remotely true (which I doubt quite a bit), I say to Hudson:
Oh, honey. I know you meant well. I understand you want to help others. But wait for them to ask you. It's not like no one knows you lost your weight with Weight Watchers and doesn't know to ask.
But, Adele? You also have some 'xplaining to do. Because, at 5'9", if you truly weighed 165 pounds, you'd have a normal BMI (and probably be a US size 2). And you don't (and you aren't).
Don't believe me? Here's are some recent pictures of Adele:
The thing is, if Adele is truly happy with herself, as she should be and she claims to be, why does she pretend to weigh so much less than she actually does?
Well many of us have been there too. And the answer is: we're in denial about how big we really are.
But talk about mixed messages. On the one hand, Adele gives interviews where she talks about how happy she is and how she'd rather be fat and be able to sing than be thin and not have her voice. And she even says she has a goal to never be thin. (Okay, am I the only one who thinks that's kind of a weird goal?) But then she turns around and lies about her weight and puts extremely Photoshopped pictures of herself on her album covers.
I just wonder what the younger of her fans are taking from this. Probably exactly the wrong message.
Why do I think this is such a big deal? Worthy of a blog post? In my opinion, people lying about their weight contributes to a general unhappiness that many of us have about our own weight and how we look, just as much as Photoshopped magazine covers of models and celebrities do. I believe it also contributes to body dysmorphia.
To that end, I will now confess that I weighed 127.2 on Sunday. (I forgot to weigh myself this morning.) Yeah, it's higher than the 125 I generally admit to. I guess I need to cut that out. Or risk being a hypocrite.