Sunday, June 15, 2008

There has to be something else...

I'm really annoyed with my husband again. I wanted to talk to him about taking time off from work in the Fall when I have my surgery. He doesn't get as much vacation as me so we need to plan out these things particularly as my niece is getting married in Aug. and there is a model train convention then so he'll have taken a lot of time off already.

Now that we're talking concrete plans instead of "some day" he's once again insisting that I don't need surgery, that surgery isn't the answer and that "there has to be something else." Of course he has NO IDEA what that something else is. But there has to be something else, some diet that actually works for more than a small handful and I just don't know about it because -- I don't know why -- somehow it's a big secret, I guess.

Once again we had the conversation about ghrelin and how the body reacts to dieting by thinking it's in a famine and, once again, I challenged him to come up with a different answer and, once again, he couldn't.

So now I'm pissed. Really pissed.

I'm the big researcher in the family. And he's SEEN me on the computer weekend after weekend looking things up, talking to people who've had WLS and otherwise making sure I know what I'm talking about. But he doesn't believe me. He doesn't say that, but he doesn't have to because, if he believed me, he wouldn't be stubbornly insisting that there has to be another answer.

I say if there is another answer that HE needs to find it. He's convinced it's out there, so if he wants me not to have surgery, he needs to find the other answer. I've found my answer and I'm going through it come hell or high water.

But what pissed me off the most is that he is FAT too. He isn't quite morbidly obese yet, but he's a definitely candidate for WLS because most likely he has sleep apnea (though he stubbornly refuses to get tested for it). So he knows that diets don't work, that there isn't some magic potion out there that you can take. He, of all people, should understand that there are forces at work he beyond willpower and exercise.

Society's brainwashing is just too great, I guess.
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